Secret to Getting Your Ex to Return Your Calls

If you've just broken up, you probably have plenty that you want to talk about, or just really miss hearing your ex's voice. There's nothing worse than ringing constantly, only to have your calls ignored or rejected. It won't be long before you're sick of leaving unanswered messages and voice mails.

But there is a way to subtly persuade them to return your calls. Believe it or not, there is a secret that can make all the difference and compel them to want to speak to you. It's not mind control, it's psychology. All it takes is a well thought out voicemail or text message.

What Not to Say

We'll start with what you shouldn't say. There are two things that people commonly do out of desperation, which hardly ever have the desired effect and will put you and the relationship you're trying to save in a horrible psychological position. These are the plead and the fake emergency.

"Please, please call me Ben. I need to talk to you, I've called a hundred times..."

Pleading makes you look weak and speaks nothing of your willingness to work out problems, cementing why the relationship ended in the first place.

"Sarah, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as possible..."

Faking an emergency is no better. When it's inevitable revealed that there actually was no real emergency, the situation quickly goes from bad to worse.

Utilize Self-Interest and Curiosity

Two of the more powerful human emotions are self-interest and curiosity, so it makes sense that combining them can produce some strong results. Try to think of a way to do this using this generic example as a starting point.

"Hi Ben, it's Sarah. I know you might not want to talk to me right now and that's okay. I just wanted to thank you for what you did for me. I really appreciate it. Take care of yourself, okay?"

In this case, Ben will struggle to avoid the temptation to find out exactly what it was that he did for Sarah. It's made even more compelling by the fact that he feels appreciated. Clearly, there needs to be a reasonable explanation, or this is no better than the emergency approach, but the smallest things can mean the most.

Last Words

Be sure to think everything through before you leave your message. If you rush into it and make a blue, it can be severely damaging to your cause. What you do before and after you finally get that call is much more important than the call itself.

This move alone won't save your relationship. It should be used as part of an overall plan of action to have the desired results. Please check out The Magic of Making Up for more information and complete strategies. Good luck!